So why the fury in the title?
I guess I should start by saying that my maternal instincts were always naturally strong. I had intuitive common sense if you will, about raising my boys. I didn't need those "What to Expect" books to know the relevance and importance of hugging your children, reading to them, bathing them, grooming them and so on and so forth.
So why am I bringing this up now?
Simple. I may have been naturally GIFTED to nurture my sons the right way, to allow them to become loving, nurturing, self-confident men who will most likely NOT fear commitment or love of another woman. They will have had the good foundation to nurture their healthy unions with their respective, significant others and God willing their children too. They know the true meaning of roots, stability and love! Those three factors govern their daily existence and make them the lovely humans they are today.
So pat on the back for the Caspian Princess for a job well done!!!! (Alright, I admit to this brag fest...But I feel I deserve it!!)
That being said, my dating life has somewhat been an interesting and eye-opening experience. In the last four years, I would say more than half of my dates have had significant issues with commitment, focus, and drive to pursue whole hearted a relationship. In most cases, one or both parents were MIA, or void of emotions, or too self-centered to nurture these men, while they were growing up and learning about healthy interactions, dynamics and being loved.
Granted there has got to be a moratorium set out to end the blaming factor. I mean seriously, is it normal that by the time you reach 50, you find yourself still saying things like "I yearned for the love of a parent" or "I never had the lasting love of a friendship" or "a lover never stayed long enough around for me to feel safe". At which point, do you stop whining about what you never had and be proactive about what you can now do to change things for the better???
Then again, maybe these poor,LOST,souls are doomed to search for an ideal,fictitious and imaginative love only found in poetry and romance novels. Come on PEOPLE, roll up your sleeves and mingle with the dirt...that is where ALL the fun ingredients that make for a meaningful connection are!!!! Stop blaming YOUR PARENTS!!!!
Oh and parents, PLEASE hug your little tykes to death, stroke their hair and squeeze them to bits, so that one day, their significant other does NOT prick some VOODOO doll in hope to wish you PAIN!!
Love your kids and hug them, PLEASE!
